This weekend I finally went through Mazzy's drawers and got rid of all the clothes that are too small for her. I've been hanging on to stuff way longer than it fits for reasons that I've got to get over— FAST.
'The Peanut' was born tiny (we took her home from the hospital at barely 6lbs) and has remained on the small side for her age. I've come to realize, oddly enough, that I am in love with her miniature status. I react to a stranger saying, "She's so tiny!" like it's the adult equivalent of, "You look great!" I almost have to stop myself from saying 'thank you'.
On a practical level, raising a lightweight means she's super easy to tote around without using a whole lot of arm strength. Plus, all the clothes people bought us for the first few months have lasted almost all year. But another benefit to raising someone with Mazzy's pea-sized stature is that milestones like crawling and pulling to standing seem that much more impressive when they are performed by a tiny baby. You should see the doubletakes we get when she waves at passing strangers and says "hi." She looks like a freaking baby genius! But The Peanut's growing and as she does, I shudder to think how people will view her when she starts walking— like she's just a plain old regular baby.
Besides hanging on to her size like it was the last life raft on the Titantic, I also struggle with her getting older. Mazzy will be ten months in about a week and a half but just as I do with every month that passes, I act like she is a 29-year-old who is about to turn 30. Just yesterday at the park, my husband told someone she was ten months and I snapped, "She's still nine months—don't age her!"
Why do I feel this need to keep Mazzy young and tiny like I'm some Hollywood producer who's worried the baby's gonna age herself out of the being-my-baby role? Why do I feel a twinge of jealousy whenever I see a pregnant woman who is about to start from the very beginning? Is it because like clothes and handbags, I prefer everything brand new? Is it because my biggest fear in life is living in the same house as a teenage girl? Or is it because having a baby is the first time I've had such an obvious way to gage time passing for myself? (Oh god, let's save that massive therapy session for another time).
No matter the reason, one thing is sure, Mazzy may have many new talents but one of them is not the ability to stop time. The other day, I put Mazzy in a 3-6 month-old outfit. The shirt barely covered her belly and even with my patented pull-and-stretch technique, the bottoms of the pants were lucky to clear her knee. I realized dressing the baby in clothing a size too small is a lot like squeezing into my skinny jeans when I've gained a few pounds. Even if I'm somehow able to wrangle them onto my body, that doesn't mean everybody else is fooled into thinking that they fit. Like it or not, Mazzy is getting bigger. And since this baby is my child, and it's my job to raise her into a well-adjusted person that doesn't need therapy the second she learns how to talk, I better learn to like it.
So yesterday, I bit the bullet, and did some much needed shopping for my soon be ten-month-old. Truth be told, I went a little out of my mind in Baby Gap. Everything was so damn cute and I guess I've been denying myself the pleasure of buying my daughter clothing all these months. And then today I dressed her in one of her new fall outfits and an awesome thing happened— the new clothes are a little too big! Turns out your baby looks tiny again when their thigh folds aren't about to bust through the seams of their pants like The Incredible Hulk.
If I was smart, I would learn from this and buy myself a new pair of jeans.
I found a woman on Etsy.com (kellycreations123) who is making me the most adorable quilt out of my son’s baby t-shirts, onesies, etc. A nice keepsake and it will be his 1st birthday present! (Of course we didn’t get this idea until last month so we’d already donated most of his infant stuff and had to sacrifice some of his current t-shirts to the project!). But now he’ll have them forever! I highly recommend this to moms who can’t bear to part with all those adorable items of clothing.
Someone once told me that being a parent is one continuous process of letting go. From the minute they learn to crawl, right through the day they leave for college…
Lauren- I just checked out Kellycreations and that’s such a great idea! We’ll probably have another baby so it will be a nice thing to do after the second one. If you feel inclined, email me a photo of the quilt when it’s done and I’ll do a post about it. No pressure:)
Pam- Sounds like someone a lot wiser than I.
I just blogged about this last week as my oldest daughter finally, at the age of 4.5, started wearing a size that is bigger then her age. Her little legs were too long for size 4T so I had to move her up. Sigh. Too bad we can’t put a book on their head and make them stay little forever. My 1 year old is still a very small peanut and I’ve often joked that my girls wear out their clothes before they outgrow them. Have a great day!
Ah she is very cute and will still be cute as she grows. But I know what you mean. I am a 29 year old trying to stop myself from becoming 30 in two months and I don’t think it is going to work out for me.
You still have plenty of clothes shopping for her as she grows.
Kristie- It’s true. When I was trying what to save and what to throw away, some of the clothes were laughably stained. Who knew spit up turned that hideous yellow over time?
Soge (can I call you Soge?)- I know you’ve probably heard this before but turning 30 can be very freeing. Most people I know will say it is among the best time of their lives.
(I’m lying of course). No, really- truth:)
The comment about constantly having to let go made me tear up a little. I have 2 daughters, one of whom I recently sent in a Baby Profile about (Miss Piper James, 4 1/2 mo) and Kaia Michael.. my almost 7 year old. I was the exact same way with both children. Kaia was my peanut and I too, felt like it was a compliment when people commented on her small stature. Let’s think about it, everything is cuter when it’s smaller. This rule applies to people too. Each month I was sad and frustrated and it took me forever to go through and sort out her too-small clothes. But here’s the strange thing, and the scariest part of my story, the next thing I knew, I was standing in my mothers kitchen on December 30th, 2008, watching my FIVE YEAR OLD little girl dance with her Papa like she would at her wedding. Standing at the stove, I broke down. Hysterical-blubbering-moron-mommy and OH SO SORRY KAIA, ruined her moment with Papa hahaha. Whoops. I had feared the same, of living with a teenage girl and now that she’s rapidly approaching 7, I realize that I already am. She is a raging ball of hormones and attitude and to be honest, I’m finally kinda over the “OMG KAIA IS GETTING OLDER WTF? MAKE IT STOP NOW!” And then Piper was born. You think that feeling of wanting to keep them small subsides when you have another? Think again. Knowing that Pipes is the last babe this mommy will ever make, push out and raise, the feeling is stronger than ever. Maybe it’s because I know what I’m in for as she gets older from my dealings with her big sister. Maybe it’s because I heard about a MILLION people say “OH WOW, You’re gonna have a 10 pounder” while I was pregnant (Which by the way people, not a smart thing to say to a mommy on the emotional edge, taking zoloft so that her family isn’t wiped out Lizzie Borden style) And then, she’s born at the exact same teeny but perfect weight as her big sis of 6 lbs 7 oz.
(Sorry for the long comment, this hits so close to home for me) But yes, Piper is born tiny and fun-sized and it was like a big EFF YOU to all the morons out there who decided that my gargantuan belly was carrying a gargantuan baby to match. We all have those moments, almost daily of wanting to keep them small, helpless, completely and totally dependent on mommy. Rarely, we have visions of clarity, when we realize, OK that 0-3 mo outfit I put on you yesterday was NOT ok, I’m sorry I cut off your circulation in my desperate attempt to keep you small. Everyday we have to let go of something. It sucks, I hate it, but I guess I have learned to accept it…. kinda. I was ready for the challenge and hard work that everyone told me motherhood was, but I was not ready for the tears, the laughs, the days I literally thought I was insane and the lifetime supply of kleenex that comes with it. Mommyhood is a journey with the biggest obstacle being just this subject. I don’t wanna scare you love, but one day, and much sooner than you imagine, Mazzy will be getting off the bus after a long arduous day of 1st grade and be too busy listening to her tiny MP3 player (what a great idea THAT was) to even pay attention to your questions about her day. And what will you do? Sigh, wipe a tear and pray to God that she still wants you to read her a bedtime story that night. <3
I’m glad this post resonated so strongly with you! So far, every time I think I want Mazzy to stay exactly as she is, the next phase is even more enjoyable than the last. Granted she is not even one yet so I’m sure that by the time she is daddy/daughter dancing at her wedding, I will be one big puddle of “Remember when?” It does make me feel better knowing that I will have another and get to go through everything again. But I’m sure going through these feelings when I know it’s my last baby will be even harder. Sigh. I guess this is what being a grown-up is really about. Just dealing.