Today, I had my 20 week ultrasound. You know, the one where you have to drink a ton of water, refrain from using the bathroom, and then lay patiently for an hour, while a technician presses, pokes and jiggles a large vibrator-looking thing across your bladder?
I think I peed the world's sixth ocean when it was over.
The 20 week ultrasound hopefully delivers much positive news— that your baby has two arms and legs, doesn't have a third eye hovering directly above it's nose, and is the correct weight for it's gestation.
Mine has all limbs accounted for and weighs in at 14 oz., which is totally within normal range, but in no way accounts for the 13 lbs. I've gained thus far.
But the most suspenseful part of the whole experience, is looking for signs of a penis to pop up on the monitor.
Cue Jaws music— da-da, da-da, da-da, DA-DA-DAAAAA!!!!!
"What's that?" my husband asked excitedly.
"Either an arm or you're giving birth to the next Dirk Diggler," said the technician. (I think she just said, "it's an arm" and I imagined the rest.)
During Mazzy's 20 week ultrasound (more than two years ago), I hadn't fully admited to myself that I had a preference until that warm blue goop was unceremoniously splurted onto my stomach. Every time anything remotely resembling male genitalia would appear on the screen, my heart would sink.
That's how I knew I really wanted a girl.
Mike, of course, was having the complete opposite experience— he had always dreamed of having a son.
In fact, one of the reasons we found out the gender was because Mike didn't want his first reaction to his child to be one of disappointment. He wanted to know what was coming and prepare himself accordingly.
I understood completely.
It took him about a day to digest but by the end of it, he was thrilled to be having a girl.
And of course, we all know how well it worked out for him. Mazzy lives and breathes for her father. And I can't imagine any boy could possibly rival my daughter's devotion to the Giants.
This time around, I honestly don't have a preference.
A girl would mean that Mazzy would have a sister which is very special to me since my sister is my best friend. A girl would mean that Mazzy and the new baby could more easily share a room and perhaps we could put off buying a new place for a few more years. A girl would mean that we would save money on new clothes, new decor, and new toys (I know that sounds like one huge gender stereotype, but it's true).
A boy would mean that we would have the experience of raising both genders. A boy would mean that Mike's dream would be fulfilled and there would be no begging a few years down the line for me to consider a third kid. A boy would mean that I would get to experience the kind of love I hear only exists between a mother and her son, similar to the kind of bond a father has with his daughter.
We haven't told Mazzy that we are having a baby yet, but we have asked her if she would prefer a brother or a sister.
"A brother."
She is adament. We've asked her on many different occasions and her answer never wavers.
I then follow up with, "But what if you had a sister? Don't you think that would be fun too?"
"Yes," she says.
"What would you name her?"
"BOY!"
Well, we now have the answer, officially confirmed by the technician, unless the technician sucks at her job.
But just revealing it would be no fun.
So let's play a game…
You guess the gender of my baby in the comment section below and then I will randomly select the winner from the people who guessed correctly.
The winner will get a gender-neutral "NYC Baby" gift from my favorite little downtown children's shop— Piccolini. Prize package includes a copy of the children's book "A Walk in New York", a Metrocard rattle and a Keith Haring bib set.
Check out Piccolini's online shop for a carefully curated selection of baby books, toys and clothes, including a big emphasis on music themed baby gifts.
As always, please only enter if you are a Mommy Shorts Facebook Fan or subscriber. Or become one, just for the ocassion— that's cool, too.
Winner will be announced one week from today on Tuesday, July 9th.
Ready?
Do you think I am having a boy or a girl????
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its a boy!
I’m going to guess a girl 🙂
My gut says girl. But then, I also ate Mexican tonight so… ;P
I have to say girl!!
Also going to guess girl!
BOY!
Either one will be fantastic. I have one of each and obviously wouldn’t trade either one. A girl grows up to be your best friend, if you let her live through her teen years. A boy…is hard to describe. The mother/son bond is just different and wonderful.
I’m not guessing, but I hope you have a boy if you’re only having two. If you might have 3, than I’d wish for a girl this time and a boy next time. The whole sister thing is pretty terrific too.
Boy
I know I can’t win but I love guessing (and I’m usually wrong, hah!) so I’ll just go out on a limb and say boy!
Boy!
I think you’re having a boy! I trust Mazzy’s instincts since, when my mom was pregnant with my younger sibling, I told everyone it was a boy & his name was Kevin- even though the doctor said it was a girl. Needless to say, I got my brother! I think Mazzy will, too!
I am going to say girl…I have a feeling Mazzy won’t give you enough “hormone” problems….hahah!!!!
GIRL!
I’m curious to know what YOUR gut feeling was?? Hubs and I both thought “girl” and it was. So I’m going with Mazzy’s instincts too and say BOY!!
I’m guessing boy. I’m hoping that Mazzy has some sixth sense even though you say she doesn’t know. I just announced my pregnancy on my blog today. I’m 9w2d. My youngest son keeps calling the baby a girl. After having two boys, I really hope he has some special baby intuition. 😉
Congrats either way.
we have to wait a whole week to find out! torture! of course i had a surprise (boy), so i don’t know why i can’t wait 🙂 anyway, i am guessing…….boy. which i know will be wrong since i guessed.
BOY!
how’s your bum looking? an old lady once told me to turn around; “your butt’s not too big, so it’s a boy.” she ended up being right… (can’t give her much credit since she had a 50/50 chance… if she had said it’s a she-he and been right now that would have been something…) but in any case i’m guessing your bum’s looking HUGE and it’s another girl.
I’m gonna guess a boy.
Congratulations on your healthy baby! Once I found out my unborn had all the necessary parts I didn’t care about finding out if he was a boy or a girl.
Anyway, I’m guessing a boy b/c I think the NYC gods are cruel and unyielding and you’ll have to move.
Girl!
And Mazel Tov all over again!
I have high accuracy in guessing … but usually closer to the due date and after seeing the mom pregnant. So I shall let my toddler guess for me – she says ” A Daddy baby” which I assume means a boy. Unless Mike is taking parental leave and taking over feeds? 😉
Also -I have two girls so know well the beautiful bond that sisters can have – and I did save a heck of a lot money in clothes! In theory. In reality – clothes are way too cute and we all buy a second wardrobe anyway, regardless of gender! And if you have a boy well … my neighbour has the girl/boy combo and they are super close. I think how we raise them and personality means more than sibling genders in terms of bonding/lifetime friendship.
And – wow, 13lbs by 20 weeks. There is nothing remotely wrong with that weight gain! Pregnant women are suppose to gain weight! I am partial to healthy, weight gaining pregnant women!! Plus healthy weight gain is so much better for the baby. Yes some cases it can be too high and cause issues, but the majority of women I see who are lamenting their weight gain were well within healthy limits.! I bet you look super cute and are being silly!!
Last thing – don’t kid yourself – the itch for a third baby will surface regardless of this baby’s gender. I tried to enjoy every monent I could of my second pregnancy/baby because I knew it was my last, but the tug for a third still surfaced and occassionally still does even though if I did conceive the baby would have to be named Jesus as well … is just no longer naturally possible! But I think even with the perks of my kids aging it’s hard to realize these stages are over forever …
boy!
Boy!
I’m totally guessing Boy!!!
Boy.
Boy!! Boys are fun….. My first baby is a boy and they are truly entertaining in only ways that boys can be…. at 3yrs old he already has “potty humor”
girl~
Boy!
Boy!
Boy!
We need a picture of your belly to make an educated guess!!
I’m guessing boy!
Boy…. I’m a lesbian mom and Luka is 13-months old..
Enjoy!!
Something tells me it’s a girl.
Considering you were sick as a dog, I’m going to guess girl!
I’m going with girl!
Boy!
Boy!!
I’m guessing a BOY!
I’m going to guess Girl, because I picture Mazzy hugging a sister. I don’t have a sister and I always wanted one. So I’m going to do some wishful thinking on Mazzy’s behalf and hope that she gets that sister I always wanted!
Boy all the way!
Boy!
My gut says “Boy!”
I am feeling a boy.
Girl!
yes, a boy would add a whole new level of entertainment for this blog, case in point, my 3 year old boy 🙂 http://youtu.be/OgFudt_MtiQ
it’s a boy! what would Mazzy name her little bro?
Boy!!
It’s a girl!
Boy, all the way!!!
Boy 🙂
Girl!
I’m going with a girl.
(TWINS! DUN DUN DUN!!!! [jk!])
Boy!
This is a tough one Ilana…but I am going to say GIRL.
Twins! One of each!!
Hahaha just kidding. A boy! 🙂
My guess is boy!
BOY!
I’m preggers with my 2nd right now too, and have had these same feelings. I’m having a boy – I’m guessing you are having a BOY too.
I guess…boy! Congrats!
Boy!
BOY!
I felt exactly the same way you did, except that I always wanted to have two boys (before I had kids, of course). I was so surprised that I found myself feeling as excited about the prospect of two girls as I did about one of each.
Now that I have one of each, I can tell you it’s pretty sweet.
Either way, good times ahead. Mazel tov!
my guess is a BOY !
Boy!
Boy! He will worship you like Mazzy does with Mike:-)
I’m going with Mazzy on this one. BOY!
Boy!!! And Congratualtions either way:)
I’m guessing girl. Also? THIS IS SO MEAN!
boy!!!
I’d gonna say “It’s a BOY”!! 🙂
Boy!
Where is my daughter when I need her? She is 3 for 3 on predicting baby sexes.
I’m going to go with GIRL!!!
Congrats again!
I am going with girl!
Boy!
When I was expecting my second, I was hoping to have another girl, mostly because it would be more cost effective (hand-me-downs, etc.), but now that my little man is here, I wouldn’t trade him for anything!
Boy! mostly because i think thats what im having but i wont know till it comes, we are crazy like that!
Boy!
boy
a boy!
Um. No guess on gender until you complete a couple of experiments for me.
1) do that trick with the necklace dangling over your belly to see if it circles or sways
2) describe everything you’ve eaten in the last 20 weeks
3) has your butt and face expanded (girl) or are you just a little basketball belly? (boy)
and 4) what do you think it is??? (always right)
Also, that Metrocard rattle is the bomb. I may contemplate a 3rd kid just to have that.
Varón! (read: boy!)
Boy!
Boy
I CANNOT believe you aren’t spilling it yet!!! I think it’s a boy?
I think Mazzy is right and you’re having a boy. 🙂 And that mother/son bond is really, really great. Congratulations on your expanding family!
I’m guessing a boy. Either way, congratulations!
I have 3 girls so I always think people are having a girl! I will guess GIRL 🙂
I just want to play, if you pick my name let someone else have the prize, but BOY.
Actually I also wonder what your instinct was as I was right with both of mine, well around 16 weeks in I started to just “know”.
The FATHER-TO-BE is the one who determines the gender of a baby. Stronger sperm means a son. So you fathers out there who really think it depends on the mother-to-be that determines gender, wake up and at least take responsibility for something. If the mom has a large bum and lotso hip weight, it’s a girl. If the baby is carried “out front” more.\, it’s a boy. Be thankful for whichever you have and love him/her to pieces.
Ima run a contest where you guess what I guess you’re having! You will win my affection. Gender neutral, of course.
I’ll even give you a hint: I think he’s probably got a penis.
Boy!
Girl? I’m a bad guesser.
I am thinking a girl! But do glad to hear the baby is healthy!
Boy!!!!!! Something from your last ultrasound made me think boy………
It’s a boy! Or a girl!
Just kidding. I think it’s a………boy.
Sounds to me like a BOY!
When I was pregnant with my 2nd, we would ask me then 2-year old son what I was having and what he wanted. He always unwaveringly said it was a girl….and he was right. Kids just know these things!
Boy!!!!
Sounds to me like a BOY!
When I was pregnant with my 2nd, we would ask me then 2-year old son what I was having and what he wanted. He always unwaveringly said it was a girl….and he was right. Kids just know these things!
Girly, Girly, Girly!
Congrats!
I say BOY!