By now I thought I'd be boring you all with the sordid details of my pregnancy but instead I haven't been talking about it at all.
Turns out I don't really want to revisit the suckiness of my first trimester and the second trimester was (thankfully) pretty uneventful. Can you believe, I'm now in my third??
There's not much to report, really. Unless you want to hear about the process of my belly button turning inside out revealing what seemed like a decades-old substance…
NO? Don't want to talk abut that?
OK, how about my TOP TEN REASONS THIRD TRIMESTER IS KIND OF AWESOME?
I know it seems hard to believe, what with the middle-of-the-night calf cramps and the swelled feet (by the way— is your husband commenting on your sausage-looking-toes grounds for a divorce or am I overreacting?), but pregnancy is actually chock full of awesomeness once people stop wondering if you're fat and know you are OBVIOUSLY PREGGO.
Can't think of anything good about your third trimester except that it's almost over? Let me help…
1) If you've spent your whole life trying to hide your less than flat stomach (as I have), suddenly you are totally comfortable having it on full display.
2) When making restaurant/take-out/dinner decisions with a group of friends/co-workers/relatives, everybody always defers to you to make the final call.
3) You can use "I'm not feeling up to it" to get out of pretty much anything— work meetings, visits with your mother-in-law, bedtime routine with your toddler, etc.
4) You can send your husband out on emergency errands like "It's 11pm and I need Twizzlers!" or "I know we have five cartons of ice cream in the freezer but none of them are Ben & Jerry's Americone Dream!!!"
5) If an old person gets on the bus/train/subway, you don't have to be the one to give up your seat. (I'd say that people will give up their seat for you, except that it's never happened.)
6) You can alternate between the same two outfits for three months and nobody bats an eye.
7) Random strangers smile at you on the street and it's not creepy.
8) Bathroom lines magically part for you, restaurant employees allow you to use their facilities even if you wandered in off the street and have no intention of eating there, and Broadway theater ushers will pick you out of obscenely long intermission bathroom lines and escort you to magical private bathrooms that you never knew existed.
9) Nobody ever expects you to carry anything.
10) You may look and feel like a whale, but it's a whale with AMAZING HAIR.
I should probably also mention that at the end, you get a baby! (Except jury is still out on whether my husband and I are ready for that one.)
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If you'd like to read about things like decades-old belly button lint and sausage toes, I'm talking about pregnancy's unmentionables on Babble today.
Or, if you've had enough preggo stuff, I've also got a post about my success with Dr. Harvey Karp's tantrum stopping method called "toddler-ese". Check it out, it's really helped me.
Very good info, thank so much
OMG – totally agree with it all. I even got to go potty sitting on the runway on a plane!
Oh this really helped put my current 3rd trimester woes in a better place. No joke, I’m wearing the same dress to the office that I wore yesterday. I just switched up the jewelry and shoes. I live in Atlanta, I was on the train last week (Yes, we have public transit!)and people were fighting to give me a seat!
I’m so jealous of your #4. This is my third pregnancy and my hsuband has NEVER gone out of his way to satisfy one of my cravings. Of course, I don’t usually have crazy cravings, but if I did, I know he would tell me to go ahead and go get whatever I wanted.
Damnit, now I want “Americone Dream” and I’m not even pregnant…
LOL…I totally agree with the theatre one. When I was pregnant with my first I went with my mom to see the Sound of Music in Toronto. While waiting in the line-up an usher tapped me on the shoulder and took me to the staff bathroom. Sweet sweet young man 🙂
#3 was something I did A LOT OF.
This is awesome! I’m at 32 weeks right now and I actually did send my husband out at 10 the other night for Twizzlers! Also, a woman did give up her seat for me on the T in Boston, so it does happen. Enjoy the final countdown!
Totally agree, being very visibly pregnant just makes you into a super special person in the eyes of the world! I love being pregnant so much. 🙂 Can’t wait to hopefully do it one more time! Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!
While I will confirm that you have amazing hair, I do not agree about any whaleness. You look divine, my dear!
Argh you’re lucky you’re pregnant here in the US. When I was pregnant with my first in Holland I had to give up my seat to old ladies all the time, once I had a young guy in a suit give ME a dirty look for not standing to give my seat to a woman who actually appeared to be way less pregnant than me, but she was dressed to let everyone know about it while I was dressed for work. The day before I actually gave birth, at 41.5 weeks, I had to give up my seat to a really old lady because she was really struggling to stand and literally nobody else would get up. I could not believe what was happening. But hey, I avoided an induction so thanks lazy Dutchies.
I found item #2 the most useful. My food cravings and aversions were extremely strong.
There are magical private bathrooms? Given that I have never attended a broadway show, much less while pregnant, I find this fascinating.
You did forget along with amazing hair you also get the world’s best natural boob job.
Almost there..
LOVE 3, 6, 9 and 10 … and loved them during pregnancy!!
We were driving cross country in Turkey on the day before the Eid holiday and at one extremely crowded rest stop we witnessed a very interesting scene. An obviously, extremely pregnant woman was going ahead of the very long line to the ladies room and was shoved back by the women and told to wait like the rest of them. She was screaming and shoving back trying to get in and finally yelled “I’m going in the mens room,” and strode right in.
The men politely let her pass and continued with their business like nothing happened. It just tickled me so much that this was a Muslim country and so many things were wrong about this scene.
The women should have been more considerate, the men should have been mortified. According to my western upbringing, she did the unthinkable by going in the mens room while there were men inside….but I guess stereotypes are obsolete in today’s world. Lolz.
This happened to me twice— once last week and once in my first trimester when nobody else even noticed I was pregnant. Those Broadway ushers have magical pregnancy-detection powers!
I’m STILL shedding hair from my last pregnancy. Which ended 13 years ago.
Yeah.
That was some good hair.
The magic secret bathroom is an amazing perk. I was seriously excited about that one.
I loved #2…I’m typically not that opinionated on food (I tend to be the overly agreeable one), but while pregnant I had no trouble asserting the food whim of the moment on everyone else. And #8…I’ve seen those theater bathrooms too. The best part was when the usher told me “if there’s anything else you need, be sure to let me know”…I should have asked if that meant free peanut m&m’s too. Can’t believe you’re in your 3rd trimester already! Excited to meet baby girl #2!
Sausage Toes is not too big of a deal for me. The bigger deal was the nickname that was funny for the first two trimesters while I was relatively small that eventually became NOT FUNNY AT ALL when I felt huge at the end. My husband’s nickname for me: Pamu (as in Shamu the whale meets pregnant Pam)
One of my reasons was usually the free food or snacks that people are so willing to give you
In my office people were always bringing donuts for me
you just made me want to be pregnant again. i think i better go read about the belly button lint and sausage toes to put it back into perspective. loved loved loved everyone doing everything for me. it was awesome. oh, i want #3….
I loved getting out of carrying things during my whole pregnancy. Ushers actually pushed you out of line to a special bathroom? Awesome! Wow 3rd semester. So quick it seems! You have beautiful hair indeed
I don’t know about the hair one…I was promised all sorts of lovely benefits of pregnancy, great hair being one and I must say it has not happened. Still a frizzy poofy mess. Maybe even more so than before, I can’t tell. Also I am still a 32A, so really waiting for the massive milk boobs to show up to the pregnancy party.
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