I have been working in an office for almost two weeks, which means I have had to find a place to pump roughly 20 times.
There are private offices but they are separated from the main space with glass. Anybody who designs an office space divided by glass has clearly never returned to work after maternity leave armed with an unmarked black bag full of funnels and tubing.
When I was freelancing after I had Mazzy, I had to pump in a glass office. I took a large piece of foam core and sat it on a chair, leaning up against the glass, so that if anybody walked by, they wouldn't be able to see me hooked up like a cow to a milk machine. Then I locked the door and went about my business.
It's hard to pump while watching the top of people's heads bobbing above a piece of foam core as they pass by, but it's definitely better than giving your co-workers a front row seat to the show.
The show would be called, "Let's Make Breasts Look Unsexier Than You Ever Imagined Possible", just to be clear.
The foam core worked successfully for about four days and then on the fifth day, God said, "LET THE FOAM CORE FALL BECAUSE THAT WOULD BE HILARIOUS!" The board tipped over mid-pumping session but still blocked the bottom half of the window, so I just kind of shimmied off my chair and onto the floor to finish the job.
I pumped in a ton of crazy places after Mazzy. I went on a commercial shoot when Mazzy was four months and had an entire production crew organizing my routine according to when the cameras weren't rolling. You don't know breast pump awkwardness until two 20 year-old guys are coordinating your pumping session over walkie talkies, then appearing to escort you to the back of the hair and make-up trailer and standing outside the front door, like they are denying access to a club, to make sure no one enters.
We were shooting for ten full days and changed our location twice daily. With each new spot, I had to find a new place to pump. I pumped in a coffeeshop bathroom, in strangers' homes, in the production van, behind a rack of wardrobe— you name it.
At my old office, I was given a key to the "lactation room" (fancy language for a a shower stall with a stool), and pumped there two to three times daily. But since I am now freelance, it means everywhere I go, I must find a new home for my favorite past time.
At the place I am working currently, I was given two options.
There's the stairwell, which I was assured nobody ever goes into, but I can almost guarantee if I decided to pump there, that would be the same day there was a small electrical fire, causing everyone to immediately flood the nearest exit that didn't require an elevator. The door would fling open revealing my protracted nipples to an entire office of people all at once.
The other option is a utility closet with no sink that doesn't have a lock. There's a fridge, a copier and a stack of soda cases… you know, in case I decided to clean my pump with Diet Coke and then take a photocopy of it. In my opinion, the only thing worse than a glass wall is a solid wood door with no lock, so there's absolutely no warning before someone mistakenly barges in.
Ultimately, I chose neither.
I went with the women's bathroom, and no, it's not private. The only outlet is on the countertop right when you walk in the door, but at least the people barging in will all be women. Initially, I hung warning signs ("come back in ten minutes or else this will be embarrassing for all parties involved", "topless woman inside and not in a good way", etc.), but after the signs were ignored more than once, I skipped that little attempt at decency too.
At this point, after pumping literally thousands of times in every half hidden spot imaginable, envisioning endless scenarios where my dignity might be compromised, I finally decided the person walking in will be way more horrified than I will.
If that person has a problem, they can go pee in the utility closet between the sodas and the copy machine, right?
My pump (a Medela) had a battery pack attachment. It took like a zillion AA’s but at least I could pump in the “privacy” of the bathroom stall. Only problem was those bathrooms that have the automatic lights; they time out after a few minutes of no one moving near the sensor. Pumped in complete darkness several times.
I used to keep a nursing cover (the kind with the boning around the collar) in my pump bag, and once everything was arranged I would put the cover over everything…just a tensy bit more privacy.
it’s awful, as if the actual practice isnt hard enough. I have my own office (which locks) so i figured i would be fine. After about a month, one of my bosses called me into her office to ask how much longer i planned to do this because the sound of the pump was making the partners and staff uncomfortable.
I have an office that locks and put a sign on the door. I work in a construction company, so the whole thing was really awkward, but totally fine. I have to say that I wasn’t unhappy, though, when at 6 months, my daughter decided to refuse all bottles and had me walking to her daycare twice a day to nurse her instead (it was across the street and took less time to go there and nurse her than to set up, pump, and clean everything). And I get to make her feel bad about it when she’s older. I walked to you in the SNOW, in the RAIN, and WIND to FEED you. I’m sure she won’t care at all, but I can try.
Oh my God, I feel you. I wrote this when I only had one child, so you can only imagine the places I’ve added to this list of shame. http://illcutyou.blogspot.com/2010/03/placed-ive-pumped.html
(sorry about the image.)
With GQ, I also had to pump while on production, and we were shooting in an empty office building, so the PA’s set me up in a similar room where they covered the windows and someone still walked in on me. But I was prepared; I was pumping with my hooter hider on, which I highly recommend for unsecured locations.
I’m an account executive and pumped in my car 3 times a day. One day, I was visiting an account and found a selucted parking spot in the back of the apartment complext I was visiting. A resident in one of the apartments called the office and the office called the police b/c a suspicious vehicle was parked under the trees in the back of the property. I was just sitting in my car pumping and returning emails on my laptop when a police car pulled up perpendicularly to my Rav-4 and carefully walked up to my car. Imagine his surpise when he looked in the window and my “Ladies” were hooked up like a cow at a dairy! I cracked the window and said I would be be done in just a few minutes! When I finally stepped out of the car he make a joke about my suspicious activity and apologized profusely!
You can put your bags flat when you freeze milk gain back some freezer space. Good luck. I wouldn’t be able to pump if I had the stress of always having someone maybe walk in on me.
I had to pump in the unlockable mailroom. Despite clearly marked signs, the mailman walked right in, and then proceeded to ask me where the mail was. OUTSIDE THE DOOR, where I considerately placed it so that it would be available without you having to walk in on my pumping session. A few months later, some men who were doing renovations also walked in, and when they realized what was going on left. And left the door open because I guess it would have prolonged the awkwardness to pull it closed. Oh and my mom stopped in to visit and so she threw the door open because of COURSE I’d want to chat with her.
I know that I’m very fortunate, I have a little room to pump in with a lock, a covered window and a computer. We call it the Lactation Station, and my coworkers are all very accepting of it, which is awesome.
I pumped in bathroom stalls, airport bathrooms (ew..), airplane bathrooms, etc. When I traveled, I shipped my milk back home in a pre-fabricated box with styrofoam linings in dry ice. I was crazy.
Does your company employee more than 50 people? If so, then they are required by LAW to provide you with a sanitary place to pump, and that does not include a bathroom. http://www.dol.gov/whd/nursingmothers/
I was going to say what Julie said above – perhaps they don’t have to provide YOU with a place to pump b/c you’re technically not an employee – but they should have a space for their employees and extend you the courtesy…
I’ve pumped in bathroom stalls with my trusty Medela. Thank God for batteries. But really, I felt so gross pumping in a dirty bathroom. Yuck.
I have my own office, but there’s a huge window into the hallway next to the door. So I had to cover it with paper. And the door doesn’t lock, so I put out a sign and closed the door when I was pumping. Which didn’t stop the (male) CEO from barging in – twice in one day! He was much more embarrassed by it than I was, though. Still better than previous jobs where I had to pump in the shower stall of a locker room or a bathroom stall.
Pumping was my life for months. Only one of my breasts produced milk at all so I was pretty much pumping around the clock. Each session was about 45 minutes yielding 4- 5 oz. When I went back to work, I was lucky enough that I have my own office with a wall and a door. I posted a sign on the door each session so no one came in by accident. I’m on the 11th floor of a downtown building and it never occurred to me to close the blinds as there is not another tall building that I can see into. My window looks out on a park. Then one day, I am pumping, facing my big lovely window and all of a sudden, the window washer dude appears. We were eye to eye. I didn’t flinch. But he did. 🙂
I just pumped in my office with staff coming in and out, no time to stop working so everyone just deal with it. Companies like Medela really should make their equipment more attractive and user friendly though!
Imagine life with a hands free pump! I think women should be proud to say they are working mums and still managing to provide milk for their babies if they so choose and society and the pump manufacturers should make it as easy as possible to do this. No wonder breast feeding is in decline if you have to use a boring beige pump which flashes a bright warning light whilst pumping to attract everyone’s attention and makes a pumping noise like a cow!
I will be buying 2 from the first company who designs a discreet, quite and attractively designed pump.
When we had a long road trip for our summer vacation, the hubby bought a car adapter for my breast pump so that I could really “pump on the go.”
This story isn’t interesting unless I add that hubby hates to be behind any other car when he drives. Must.Be.In.Lead.Pass.Everything.
Yes, even the truckers.
thus giving them full view of double barrel pump action in passenger seat.
thanks hubby.
I just want to say you go, girl! I breastfed both boys for a year and pumped in some unusual places, but many of yours take the cake. With my second baby I had my own office and could just shut the door – very nice! But no matter what, breastfeeding and pumping is a huge commitment – good for you!
I never pumped (it just didn’t work) but the worst place I ever had to nurse was on a bench near the bathrooms and back storage/breakroom at friggin’ Wal-Mart. All because it was raining outside and I couldn’t walk home while they took three times longer than they promised to change the car’s oil. I think it might have been easier to sit on the floor than try to stay comfortable on the bench sans pillows, but I’m positive the bench was cleaner.
Damn, this post and comments are making me feel lucky. I have pumped for both of my 2 boys while working with my current employer. I pump in a private bathroom with a locking door and sink. The first time around, I had to have someone go unlock the door to let me in and then go lock it back when I was done because apparently letting me have the key (it is an unused restroom that was built specifically for a transgender student {I work in a college} who no longer attends) was just too easy. I also sat on the toilet while pumping which was both sort of humiliating and uncomfortable at the same time. I pumped 2-3 times a day for about 6 months. On my second round (which is still ongoing!) I am given the key which I have to return when I am done and there is even a real live chair in there now! This isn’t an ideal setup, and if this bathroom did not exist there would be absolutely NO other place for me to pump. BUT! I am grateful for what I do have…especially after reading this. I’m going to go pump now.
PS, do you like those Medela bags? I can’t get used to them…I always used Lansinoh before but now I actually like the Target Up and Up brand the best.
Seriously, I don’t think I could squeeze out a drop in a situation like yours. Holy canoly I think I’d give that right up. When I pumped at work it was in a quiet office, and although the frequent slurping sounds were embarrassing, I had no worries of intruders. Props to you, but in all honesty: just let the girl nurse it up in the hours she’s with you and quit if you want to! No offense to anyone (least especially you, Ilana) but I just want to say: it’s ok if you choose not to milk yourself like a cow in front of strangers.
It’s so sad that nursing women are still made to feel this way by companies big and small. Employees, freelancers, full-time, part-time, whatever. I went through it too and almost quit my job because of how I was made to feel by HR. Laws don’t seem to be helping. We need to do something.
Maybe someone will turn this post into a big time news reporter and all companies with 20+ women employeed will install a “pumping room” equipped with a comfy chair, outlet, sink, snacks, and maybe even a sexy man to rub your feet.
My desk is by the window with “L” shaped small extension attached. I work for fashion company and design dept so 98% are women.
So I had 40″x60″ foam board leaning against the extension blocking my desk from hall way (there are mailmen and cleaning crews passing by) and 30″x40″ small board behind my computer monitor blocking view from next desk.
I always wore a button down shirt so I only need to unbutton few top buttons and had nursing cover over my medela hands free pump. It has chargeable pump so I didn’t have to plug it in and I put the pump in the big drawer so it didn’t make much noise.
Most of people didn’t even realized that I was pumping while talking to me over the board or even walked to me to ask questions. Lol
Oh and our company has puping room with small fridge but it was too hard to book it because so many people are using it.
I have the utmost respect for pumping moms. Well done, all of you.
I live in Canada and after both of my kids were born, I stayed home for a year. This year is partially paid for through employment insurance premiums and—I’m extra lucky—my employer “topped up” to 80% of my salary. This year off is legislated and my job must be held for me until I get back. (Some families choose to share the twelve months and have dad stay home for part of it). This year off has helped increase the breastfeeding rate in Canada.
My first kid attended the daycare in the building where I work and I nursed him twice a day. Now my second will be attending that daycare so I can continue nursing her.
I feel so privileged.
I have to say, I am so glad I never had to pump at work. It is about THE most awkward thing to see. Okay, well there are some more things, but you know what I mean…
Good for you for getting it done no matter what! 🙂
I was just reading the paragraph about pumping in the stairwell to my husband. True to the “man code” he displayed his listening prowess with this response, “wait, what? Nipples?” I’m pretty sure he heard, “mumble mumble mumble, nipples, mumble mumble mumble.”
Also..I didn’t read the comments so maybe someone suggested it. You NEED a Freestyle if you’re doing the Medela thing. Check with your insurance to see if they will cover most of the cost if your current pump wasn’t already purchased that way. It’s completely outlet free. I pumped during a road relay race (takes place all day and you drive around with a team in a van) and never needed the outlet in the van. Two other pumping mamas I was with were using the Pump n Style and had to jockey for the outlet, in the front seat, with all the windows. I, meanwhile, pumped in the privacy of tinted windows and most of the time, no one even knew. Fantastic invention.
After my daughter was born, my job had me in my office one day a week, where I had no windows and a door with a lock: perfect! The other four days I spent driving between locations. After a few weeks of sitting in remote corners of parking lots, I decided there was no difference between driving and sitting still. So I hooked up my hands free bra, covered up with a jacket or blanket, and hit the road! It wasn’t exactly relaxing, but I was totally safe with both hands on the wheel and not afraid someone was going to pull up next to me in the lot. I’m sure there are some long haul truckers out there that were a little shocked, but I just kept moving!
Wow. I breastfed both my kids to 12 months because neither would take a bottle and I never went back to work. It worked for me. But I have to take my hat off to all you amazing working mums who pump. I know there is little dignity left after giving birth but I found pumping nibbled away at the last leftovers. Most people I know who work used formula – nothing wrong with that – but applause to all you guys who are pumping away in all these oh-so glamourous locations to give your kids your best.
Makes me feel very luky to live in munich germany. I stayed home for 2 years with my first one and 18 months with my second one. The first year you continue to receive your salary and work must guarantee your old job for 3 years after the baby is born!
In the beginning i was shy, but after seeing women breastfeeding in the subway or inrestaurants, i started doing it all over the place! Even on a park bench in the snow! It was liberating, and am extremely thankful for this society.
P.s. I still miss target though…
Bravo to you for making the effort, I say!!
A mom friendly pump, it exists! I got one and it is great, sadly they’re not shipping outside The Netherlands, although they’re soon branching out to Belgium.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUF_6DVDT6E&sns=em
This video takes it a bit far, personally wouldn’t do it in a restaurant, but its definitely hands free, discreet and silent. Had some emails with Difrax why they wouldn’t ship international, and in the end had my mom send it to me.
At least it’s possible…
You need an extension cord and a folding chair for the handicapped stall. Best investments ever.
But hey…pumping got me out of jury duty…so that’s something..right?
I live in Maryland where it’s legislated that we can breastfeed whenever and wherever. I once pumped with the nursing cover on a sofa in the lobby of a convention. No one questioned what I was doing. I have no idea if anyone, male or female, knew.
I researched my rights as a mom before returning to work. Thank goodness for Obamo care now offices have to provide a locked room outside of a restroom to pump. I go to the conference room and take my 20 minute breaks. I even printed a copy of the law and wave it like a stop sign whatever anyone thinks of giving to crap about when and where to pump.
Thank goodness I’ll be able to go to my car to pump this November since there are FIVE pregnant people on my work floor (all due within a month of each other) and we have to share the one room designated for pumping because it doesn’t have glass windows overlooking the sea of cubes… Its going to be one busy room!
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[…] I went back to work about two months ago. Typically, as a freelancer, I work a few weeks full-time and then I have a few weeks off until the next project. But I have been getting consistent work and have not had any time off since I started working again. The effects of being back at work are cumulative. A couple of weeks back and all is well, but now Mazzy is beginning to realize this is more of a permanent change. I’m starting to feel the increased absence of time with her as well so we are both more sensitive when we are together. Mazzy needs to show me she is mad I am not around and at the same time, I want the time I spend with Mazzy to be that much more special. […]